I haven’t met anyone who hasn’t spent time working in the in-between. Let me give you a few examples. Maybe you:
Nehemiah served in the court of a foreign king – aching to repair the walls of his home. Joseph had several vivid in-betweens. He was in a hole between being a family member and a slave, and in prison between a false accusation and being a rising star of wisdom and leadership. David lived for years on the run between his role as a shepherd but not yet a king. Jesus stepped into the muddy waters of the Jordan River between being the carpenter’s son and the announcement of being Messiah of the world.
When we are in-between at work, we are at the threshold of experiencing the transformational grace of God or we can spiral into bitterness, grumbling, and regret. If we examine the lives of the examples above, and the multitude of others in scripture, we can find wisdom for our time in-between.
They had a deep and honest ache for what can be. Part of the beauty of the Bible is the raw emotion that it captures. People who are transformed in the in-between shed tears, question, shout, confess, and plead with God. They don’t put on a happy face and carry on. They are unfiltered in their cries and conversations with God.
They planned for God’s “yes.” In Nehemiah chapter one, we read of his honest ache. But in the second chapter we see that he had not just been praying, he had also been planning. He did not slide into despair. Nehemiah was ready for if and when God opened the door for him to move forward.
They clung to who they understand God to be – even if they are not feeling it in the moment. Those who are transformed by the in-between times have a community around them. They remind each other of God’s character and attributes when things aren’t working out like we hope they would. So many Psalms follow the pattern I’ve laid out: (1) a vulnerable perspective on their pain (2) followed by a plea for God’s activity and their wisdom in the midst of it, and (3) concluding with some version of, “And yet we know you are faithful.” I forget that part if I’m living life alone. We need people who instill and repeat that to us.
We are convinced that God is at work: in your work, at your work, and through your work. But let me reassure you, we also believe God is at work in all the in-betweens of your work.